You Can Make A Difference Now (YCMADN): Red Flags of a Potential Abuser

Posted on 19 October 2011


Warning signs of a potential abuser:

- Constant put downs
- Criticises your appearance, choices you make, family, friends, etc.
- Using guilt
- You are often made to feel guilty over something, thus having to give in to his demands constantly.



Checks your telephone calls, reads your text messages, insists on access to your e-mail account and social network sites (Facebook, Twitter, etc). Stalks you and calls to check on your whereabouts.

Explosive temper

Breaks things, raises his/her voice and maybe even hit you.


Impose authority

Tells you what to do and forces you to seek approval before you do something or go somewhere. Takes away your right to make decisions for yourself.


Isolating you

Removes you from your circle of family and friends. Always gets upset when you choose your family and friends over him.



Says things like, “I’ll break your neck,” or “I’ll kill you,” then dismisses them with “Everybody talks that way,” or “I didn’t really mean it.”

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